Carla van Raay: Out Of Love For Yourself

Out Of Love For Yourself

Enjoy these excerpts from my eBook …

Excerpt from Chapter Five

THE EFFECTS OF ABUSE

It’s wonderful to know that that the devastating feelings we have been living with can be disempowered. Here is an even more comforting thought; a negative feeling is never the truth about you! It is a feeling attached to a belief, that’s all. You will discover, as you work through this book, that you are much more than your beliefs and your feelings.

Excerpt from Chapter Thirteen

ACCEPTANCE OF FEELINGS

When a negative feeling comes up, for example the feeling of shame, what do we usually do? We try not to feel it! It’s very uncomfortable, isn’t it? It makes us cringe. It makes us turn hot and cold, it makes out self-esteem wilt. No, there is nothing nice about feeling shame.

There’s only one way to deal with shame and with all other negative feelings, and that is to allow the feelings to be there. In other words, to accept them.

Excerpt from Chapter Fifteen

SEXUALITY

Abuse can cripple our ability to feel erotic. It is extremely important to become aware of the conclusions we have come to about men and about life if we want to regain our natural, pleasurable, erotic feelings and then deal with them.

More about this eBook

An enormous number of women and girls have been abused, and this book offers a first and yet thorough road to seeking further help, setting the stage for overcoming a major problem in women’s healing: the shame and secrecy which very often prevents her from opening up to another person.

This workbook was at first available in print, at a price of AU$67. It is now available as an electronic book for just AU$10. There is no waiting, there are no postal charges. Should you lose your e-book, a replacement will happily be sent to you entirely free of charge. You will find that the workbook enables you to find the chapter and page you want just by clicking at the right link, and you can print out the whole book or just the sections that you want.

Don’t hesitate! Let this be the first day of the rest of your life, where you learn to look back only to realise how far you have come.

Ms. van Raay, I just wanted to thank you for writing such a helpful book, Out of Love for Yourself.

John Davis

Out of Love is available as a Downloadable E-Book in PDF format for AU$10.00, click on the Buy Now button below to purchase.

Chapter One: Becoming Aware: notice, notice, notice!	7
Chapter Two: What Is Abuse?	9
Chapter Three: Have I Been Seriously Abused As A Child?	10
Chapter Four: More Awareness and Noticing	14
Chapter Five: About the Effects of Abuse	16
Chapter Six: Freeing the Victim of Abuse	19
Chapter Seven: Making Your Choice	21
Chapter Eight: Making Choices	23
Chapter Nine: Sliding Down the Ladder: Lapsing	27
Chapter Ten: The Inner Saboteur	28
Chapter Eleven: Some More Thoughts About Self-Sabotage	30
Chapter Twelve: Honesty	30
Chapter Thirteen: Starting to Process: Acceptance	31
Chapter Fourteen: More About Acceptance: The Emotional Freedom Technique	34
Chapter Fifteen: Sexuality. What is Sexuality? Sexual Behaviour, Sexual Feelings	37
Chapter Sixteen: Let’s Investigate: Three Important Questions	40
Chapter Seventeen: Three More Questions	42
Chapter Eighteen: One Big Question	43
Chapter Nineteen: Making Choices: An Advanced Way of Using EFT	46
Chapter Twenty: Healing Your Attitudes Toward Your Sexuality	48
Chapter Twenty-One: Your Healing is a Spiritual Journey	50
Chapter Twenty-Two: Your Innocence	55
Chapter Twenty-Three: The Presence	58
Chapter Twenty-Four: A Process of Empowerment: The Work of Byron Katie	59
Chapter Twenty-Five: Some Wise Sayings and a Story of Change Using The Work	64
Chapter Twenty-Six: Leaving Anger and Blame Behind	68
Chapter Twenty-Seven: Further Work on Anger	72
Chapter Twenty-Eight: Not Finished With Anger Yet	74
Chapter Twenty-Nine: Theta Healing	77
Chapter Thirty: Dealing With Guilt	81
Chapter Thirty-One: Dealing with Shame	84
Chapter Thirty-Two: The Role of the Body in Healing	86
Chapter Thirty-Three: Knowing Who You Are	88
Review and Summarise	90
Recommended Reading	91